I've been thinking about individuality/individualism much lately. Maybe it's because recently I have this feeling that I have to conform, go along with certain people or seek their company(?). Filipinos, culturally, are very collective-minded people... we're
just raised that way, to be interdependent and to "get along" whether it be with family, friends or officemates; and this is why most people would say that we are so family-oriented whilst on other lands, parents supposedly "kick out" their kids when they're 18! Personally though, while I like this interdependence thing (it gives me a warm sense of belonging), there's something about individuality that appeals to me...
Maybe this has been brought about by the recent Lakers-Boston (?) game. Everybody seems to know who is betting against which team, who wins or not and almost everybody watched the game in the pantry. For a second it gave me a very puzzling feeling that I'm the only one who couldn't care less about basketball and it had me feeling a bit left out. Am I the only one who is not interested in basketball??? I mean, really?
Sometimes I do not know if I should force myself to like something just because everybody likes it; or even to be updated with stuff as to not feel quite so out of place.
"Dapat marunong kang makisama," people always say but where do you draw the line? I would have to say though that in my earlier years, I would try really, really hard to be interested but now that I'm older, my mindset is a little bit more rigid and I could think for myself what interests me and what not. I don't have anything against basketball nor the people who watch it (even if they just watch it to feel like they belong), of course not! In the same way that I hope people don't judge me because I like watching showbiz chika from time to time and thinking about it, no, I don't watch it to conform but I watch it out of genuine interest/curiosity as vapid as it might sound.
Of course, all these stuff makes me feel like a teenager. Peer pressure at 28? Surely I should be through that stuff already?!? And to keep in mind that I don't necessarily have to like what other people like, in the same way that other people don't need to like what
I like. And really, I shouldn't mind that I may feel out of place from time to time; it just means that people are different and their interests are different and that's okay. I remember writing before how I am bothered with blatant rebelliousness (especially with no causes at all!); well, it still bothers me a little as that's not true individuality (although I do understand where rebels are coming from). True individuality doesn't mean you have to prove anything or break the rules or be different for the sake of being different. No, no, no. Individuality means you stick with what you like - even if it's that dreaded word "mainstream" - and respect other people's likes, too.
In order to have faith in [one's] own path, [one] does not need to prove that someone else's path is wrong. -Paulo Coelho, Warrior of the Light